Then, that Friday afternoon the parent might play that “What If?” Game again. We never keep secrets in our family, because secrets hurt people.
That would be like trying to keep a secret. ‘Like if you had a friend over and you two were throwing ball in the house and you broke my lamp and decided to hide it under the bed. What’s another kind of surprise?īut a secret is something that you hide from somebody because you think it might make them upset or mad. You save it for a surprise, right? Surprises usually make people happy. A surprise is like when you and daddy get mommy a birthday present, and you don’t tell me about until my birthday. It works best if we’ve talked about a boundary issue, and then later when it’s relevant, we pose a “What If?” Challenge.įor example, some afternoon while driving home from preschool a parent might choose to teach the child the difference between a surprise and a secret. What would you do if Jeffrey’s brother Marcus asked you to look at naked pictures? What if during your overnight at Jeffrey’s you wake up in the night and feel scared? Really think about potential, upcoming situations that might vex the child, and see if the child himself can think of a solution. Maybe just two or three questions at a time – in the car or while taking a walk. And definitely not to ask a flurry of sexual abuse related challenges in one go. The idea of course is not to barrage a child all at once. What would you do if were an aisle away from me in the grocery store and you heard shouting?
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What if you climbed a tree just fine, but then you weren’t sure how to come down? These would naturally be age-appropriate because the scenarios would reflect the child’s actual potential circumstances. The object of the “What If?” Game is for an adult to pose situations to the child that the child might face in real life, and in which she may need to problem solve or find solutions for her safety. I think I was supposed to just jump, because mine wasn’t. My brother had a rope ladder because his bedroom window was over a downward sloping driveway. It’s kind of like teaching a child what to do in case of fire in the house. The video describes the “What If?” Game. First of all, who would have thought that talking with little kids about safety from sexual abuse, or any other threat for that matter, could be made into a game? But it’s a great idea. I get such a big kick out of the empowerment kids would have if their adults would take on this practice. That might be why this is one of my most favorite Two Minutes for Prevention videos. My mom could think up any word, and I could fling out its opposite. After each exchange I got an “Excellent!” or “That’s right!” It was like instant gratification with a heavy dose of competency. I think it was because my mom was always cheerful about it and I felt empowered. I don’t have many early childhood memories, but I stored this one.
We played this game while she was doing dishes after supper. “Hot, hot, hot!” – “Cold, cold, cold!” The idea was to think of it quickly, and as I got older, to be sure that a word actually had an opposite. Anyway, in the Opposites Game my mom would say a word, and I was supposed to shout out its opposite. Is that too precocious? Maybe I was four. When I was a child, my mom played a game with me that she called “Opposites.” This must have started when I was about three. As part of our Two Minutes for Prevention series, Stewards of Children ® author Paula Sellars provides additional insights and experience about the topic covered in the video below.
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